That being said, I have things to type now. The first is this: The auction I am chairing is 6 weeks away. I'm beginning to FREAK OUT. I'll elaborate on that more later, I just can't right now. The second is this: It's hard to be at a place where you can't help someone, no matter how much you want to. And, if you read that word "help" as "control the situation", you and I are kindred spirits.
Right now, my DH is in a place professionally, that is not ideal. He has been at his current employment for 12 years. He has always been well liked and done a good job, but lately, that's not cutting the mustard. The new Big Boss (BB) showed up 2.5 years ago and isn't much of a leader. He's vague and wimpy and it's hard to work for the vague wimpy guy. He gave DH an off cycle review and said nasty things like apathetic, untrustworthy, poor leader and liar. But, the review conclusion was "Satisfactory" and DH is still in charge of the budgets. Really, do you WANT an apathetic liar working on your budget? I don't think so, but I'm just a stay-at-home mom so what do I know.
Then there's the New Guy (NG) that BB hired as a "consultant". I met NG last year at the annual event for the college. NG had a whole bunch of fun things to say about his current co-workers. He was not very kind in his descriptions of the, ahem, "other" employees. Apparently, he's smarter than 99% of the rest of us, and he's not afraid to let us know that. There was drama surrounding how NG was paid-his "friend" had a staffing agency so NG could get paid- and how much he was paid. And when the money was about to become a huge issue, they hired him. Now, there's scrounging to pay "what NG is worth" ie. what he was making as a consultant, and DH is in charge of the budget-still. Oh, and NG is in charge of DH because BB was mentoring DH and it didn't go well. (Generally, you have to TELL someone that you are mentoring them for it to go well, but that could be a whole other post.)
Long story short, DH needs to leave his job and find a new one. And, I can't do it for him. He has to do it himself. That's good and it sucks all at the same time. It's hard for me to let go, I like to be in-charge. DH is capable and marketable and smart and he can do this. I can sit down and be quiet. As much as I want to call the local paper and tell them all the dirt I know, I can't. I won't. I'm a big believer in Karma and I also know that Karma can be a b*tch. So, that's where I am. Knee deep in an auction and sitting quietly in the corner. Oy vey. I need help- or a drink. I'm not sure which to start with.
